Maid Of Honor Speech

maid of honor speechWelcome to our Maid Of Honor Speech website and congratulations on being the maid of honor! 

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She has recorded a short message here , I would love for you to have a listen and also read some of what she says, she is an author of several popular wedding speech books and is a renowned public speaker herself. So I think she should be able to help you, and you have nothing to lose as there is a 100% money back guarantee.

You could have your speech started in the next 10 minutes. Good luck to you with whatever you choose to do and I really hope your big day goes well and you enjoy it.

You were picked as maid of honor because you are a kind, loving and supportive friend to your best friend or sister, so all you have to really do is think about your feelings for the bride and groom and put them into words and in the right order. You are really half way there, and we can help you go the whole way by guiding you.

Our top maid of honor speech tips are

  • Stay calm, it is going to be ok.
  • Start to think about what you want to say as soon as you can. But don’t worry if you are not ready yet, we can help you right away.
  • Consider these ideas;
    • How did they meet?
    • What do you love about the bride
    • Why are they good together
    • If it’s your sister, talk about growing up, great times together, how she has helped you
  • Once you have finished, get opinions from people you trust
  • Memorize as much as possible, write some notes to keep you on track but try to memorize
  • Keep it short, 3 to 5 minutes is enough time to convey your feelings

The best advice we can give you right now, is to take a look at our speech examples or we highly recommend trying our book. And keep reading our great web site, there is a lot here to help you and we will add new posts with more useful information for you the maid of honor. Oh and well done btw for getting the job!!

And good luck with your maid of honor speech…

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Biblical quotes

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 NIV

My beloved spoke, and said to me, Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land. The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.
“Song of Solomon” 2:10-13, NIV

For I have found the one whom my soul loves.
“Song of Solomon”

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Genesis 29:20
So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days. (NLT)

Proverbs 5:19
A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. (NIV)

Proverbs 10:12
Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. (NIV)

Proverbs 13:24
Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. (NLT)

Proverbs 15:17
A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. (NLT)

Proverbs 17:9
Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends. (NLT)

Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (NIV)

Proverbs 30:18-19
There are three things that amaze me—
no, four things that I don’t understand:
how an eagle glides through the sky,
how a snake slithers on a rock,
how a ship navigates the ocean,
how a man loves a woman.

Song of Solomon 1:2
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. (NIV)

Song of Solomon 2:16
My lover is mine, and I am his. (NLT)

Song of Solomon 4:10
How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice! (NIV)

Song of Solomon 8:6
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. (NIV)

Song of Solomon 8:7
Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. (NIV)

Matthew 22:37–39
Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ (NKJV)

Maid of honor speech alternatives

maid of honor speech alternativesMaid of honor speech alternatives, as you know not everyone is comfortable giving speeches or speaking in front of an audience. This definitely includes maids of honor who are very happy with their roles but dread the thought of that one enormous thing required of them during the reception. Fortunately, there are some maid of honor alternatives to the speech for non-public speakers or for those who simply don’t want to go the traditional route.

Maid Of honor speech Alternative number 1 Poetry

Track down a love related poem, romantic or marriage, or a special meaning one to the bride or to both. You are the bride’s most trusted friend, you know her and the groom much better than anyone else and you can use this knowledge to find poems they can relate to and are appropriate for this amazing occasion. Don’t forget to read the poem with feeling, to pause as it is important, letting it convey your message, and let this special poem be your speech.

They will love it, trust me, everyone loves a poem, especially at weddings.

Maid Of honor speech Alternative number 2 Stories

Honor your dear friend the bride by reading from a story or from a book with special meaning to your friendship. Maybe it’s a story you both enjoyed, a tale about friends you both emulated during your childhood, or something about friendship you both can relate to.

Again, this is from the heart, the reception and more importantly will love you forever.

Maid Of honor speech Alternative number 3 The gift of music

Can you sing or play a musical instrument? Instead of giving a speech, try this if you find yourself less nervous doing this than public speaking. Find the couple’s theme song, the bride’s favorite love song or dedicate a song that you believe would express your message best. Practice singing or playing it over and over so you are truly prepared and confident on the day itself. Coordinate with the DJ for cuing or with the band if you need accompaniment.

Maid Of honor speech Alternative number 4 A symbolic gift

Give the newlyweds symbolic gifts such as a plant, to remind them to always keep their love for each other alive and growing. A hiking gadget for the adventurous couple will remind them to keep reaching for their dreams side by side. You should still give a brief description of your gift, but having something particular to talk about helps to focus your speech and your nerves.

Maid Of honor speech Alternative number 5 Important messages

Collect short messages from the couple’s family and friends, or from the dutiful bridesmaids, way in advance. Read these messages during the reception, and simply add a brief personal message, so you don’t have to think of what to say during the whole time allotted for your maid of honor speech.

maid of honor speech alternatives

Maid of honor speech quotes

maid of honor speech quotes

We have collected some beautiful maid of honor speech quotes for you here. A great idea would be to use 1 or 2 in your speech. There are great quotes from Shakespeare to John Lennon and even Dr Seuss.

Your speech will be better with a quote, it would show you have put a lot of thought into your speech. And really be appreciated by the people there, especially the bride and groom. Go on, have a read.

On this day I will marry my friend,
the one I laugh with,
live for,
dream with,

I wrote your name in the sky, but the wind blew it away.
I wrote your name in the sand, but the waves washed it away. I wrote your name in my heart,
and forever it will stay.
Jessica Blade

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.
Martin Luther

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
Helen Keller

On this day of joy, we thank you for joining us in the celebration of our love and the beginning of our new life together.

We come to love not by finding a perfect person,
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Sam Keen

My true love hath my heart,
and I have his
Philip Sydney, English Poet

There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved.
George Sands

Whatever our souls are made up,
his and mine are the same
Emily Bronte

All you need is love.
John Lennon

Once in awhile,
Right in the middle of an ordinary life,
Love gives us a fairy tale.

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind
William Shakespeare

Two souls with but a single thought, Two hearts that beat as one.
Friedrich Halm

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company
than a good marriage.
Martin Luther

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep
because reality is finally better than your dreams.
Dr. Seuss

Marriage is the golden ring in a chain whose
beginning is a glance and whose ending is Eternity.
Kahlil Gibran

To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
David Viscott

My true love hath my heart, and I have his
Philip Sydney

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all
St. Augustine

A part of you has grown in me. And so you see, it’s you and me together forever and never apart, maybe in distance, but never in heart.
Author Unknown

This day I will marry my best friend,
the one I laugh with,
live for,
dream with,
Author Unknown

Love is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
George Sands

Love those who love you

Whatever our souls are made up, his and mine are the same
Emily Bronte

Come live with me, and be my love,
And we will some new pleasures prove
Of golden sands, and crystal brooks,
With silken lines, and silver hooks
John Donne

You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without
Author Unknown

If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you’ve made me smile,
the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand
Author Unknown

We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by embracing one another.
Luciano de Crescenzo

The prudence of the best heads is often defeated by the tenderness of the best hearts.
Henry Fielding

You’re nothing short of my everything.
Ralph Block

Suddenly I found you and the spirit in me sings,
Don’t have to look no further,
You’re the soul of many things.
Bob Dylan

I have found men who didn’t know how to kiss.
I’ve always found time to teach them.
Mae West

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.
They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.

I love you – those three words have my life in them.
Alexandrea to Nicholas III

What lies behind us,
and what lies before us are tiny matters
compared to what lies within us.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

From this day forward,
You shall not walk alone.
My heart will be your shelter,
And my arms will be your home.

The most eloquent silence;
that of two mouths meeting in a kiss.

My love for you is a journey;
Starting at forever,
And ending at never.

One word frees us
Of all the weight and pain in life,
That word is Love

Love is a wonderful thing.
You never have to take it away
From one person to give it to another.
There’s always more than enough to go around.
Pamela de Roy

Love is like swallowing hot chocolate
Before it has cooled off.
It takes you by surprise at first,
But keeps you warm for a long time.

It takes a second to notice some one,
An hour to like some one,
A day to fall in love with some one,
And a life time to forget them.
Brittney Shea

I arise from dreams of thee
In the first sweet sleep of night,
when the winds are breathing low,
and the stars are shining bright.
Percy Byssthe Shelley

There are three things that last: faith, hope and love,
and the greatest of these is love.
I Corinthians 13:13

We come to love not by finding the perfect person,
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Sam Keen

If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my garden forever.
Alfred Lord Tennyson

Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed:
our love to others,
and others’ love to us.
Thomas Trahern

One should believe in marriage
as in the immortality of the soul.
Honore de Balzac rong

I hope you found some inspiration from these maid of honor speech quotes, good luck.

maid of honor speech quotes

Maid of honor speech poems

maid of honor speech poemsMaid of honor speech poems are a great idea and can be so beautiful, here are a new collection that may inspire you or maybe you could use some of the words and use them to add that something special to your speech?

There were a billion people who watched the royal wedding, it therefore seems timely to refresh and renew the unbreakable relationship between love and poetry. Here, then, is an amazing collection of new poems which can be uttered as vows or read as quotes. These wonderful poems will be spoken in future years at partnerships and weddings.


“for both to say”

I might have raised your hand to the sky
to give you the ring surrounding the moon
or looked to twin the rings of your eyes
with mine
or added a ring to the rings of a tree
by forming a handheld circle with you, thee,
or walked with you
where a ring of church-bells,
looped the fields,
or kissed a lipstick ring on your cheek,
a pressed flower,
or met with you
in the ring of an hour,
and another hour . . .
I might
have opened your palm to the weather, turned, turned,
till your fingers were ringed in rain
or held you close,
they were playing our song,
in the ring of a slow dance
or carved our names
in the rough ring of a heart
or heard the ring of an owl’s hoot
as we headed home in the dark
or the ring, first thing,
of chorussing birds
waking the house
or given the ring of a boat, rowing the lake,
or the ring of swans, monogamous, two,
or the watery rings made by the fish
as they leaped and splashed
or the ring of the sun’s reflection there . . .
I might have tied
a blade of grass,
a green ring for your finger,
or told you the ring of a sonnet by heart
or brought you a lichen ring,
found on a warm wall,
or given a ring of ice in winter
or in the snow
sung with you the five gold rings of a carol
or stolen a ring of your hair
or whispered the word in your ear
that brought us here,
where nothing and no one is wrong,
and therefore I give you this ring.

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John Agard

River, be their teacher,
that together they may turn
their future highs and lows
into one hopeful flow

Two opposite shores
feeding from a single source.

Mountain, be their milestone,
that hand in hand they rise above
familiarity’s worn tracks
into horizons of their own
Two separate footpaths
dreaming of a common peak.

Birdsong, be their mantra,
that down the frail aisles of their days,
their twilight hearts twitter morning
and their dreams prove branch enough.

Lover’s Knot for Chloe and Malcolm

Rachael Boast

From this day forwards
we’ll push the boat out, let it body us,
take us to a place as much mine as yours,
past the double oxbow
where the blossoms fall, and together
we’ll learn the ropes: how to pull you in,

how to let you go; let you be as you are,
and break the wave of my known world.
In a covenant of above and below,
may we be confluent with each changing tide;
our partnership both the anchor and the flow
for all the days of our lives.

A Vow

Wendy Cope

I cannot promise never to be angry;
I cannot promise always to be kind.
You know what you are taking on, my darling –
It’s only at the start that love is blind.

And yet I’m still the one you want to be with
And you’re the one for me – of that I’m sure.
You are my closest friend, my favourite person,
The lover and the home I’ve waited for.

I cannot promise that I will deserve you
From this day on. I hope to pass that test.
I love you and I want to make you happy.
I promise I will do my very best.

I take

Imtiaz Dharker

I take
your body where love takes place
I take
your mouth where my life takes shape
I take
your breath which makes my space
I take
you as you are, for good
I take
you with open arms, to have
I take
you to have
and to hold but not to hold
too hard
I take
you for farther for closer
for sooner for later
death tries to get us
and we laugh and we stall
and we tell it to call us some other
fine day because we are busy today
taking our tea with buttered
hope and
I take
I take
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From the Song Dynasty

Nick Drake

The tale survives of two men
Who fell in love “at first sight”;
Who shared everything
In unbounded intimacy
Including the pillow
And the red embroidered coverlet
Which had been in the family
For generations.
Whether they had bad days,
Domestic arguments
Or inappropriate dreams
We do not know –
No doubt such burrs
Were worked away by time
Polishing its story;
How they found each other
And lived together all their lives,
And died on the same day,
And were buried by the grieving town
On Mount Luofo’s peak
With their pillow and red coverlet;
And a pine tree grew
Out of the grave
Like the character for longevity
And true love.

Such is the legend.
I like to think of them,
Pan Zhang and Wang Zhangxian,
In the crowd of well-wishers
Waiting in the April sunshine,
Yes, under white cherry trees
In full bloom, for us
Here and now, on this day
Early in the century,
In our very best suits and ties,
With our new rings
Growing warm on our fingers
Like keepsakes of light
Saved from the stars.

Bridled Vows

Ian Duhig

I will be faithful to you, I do vow
but not until the seas have all run dry
etcetera: although I mean it now,
I’m not a prophet and I will not lie.

To be your perfect wife, I could not swear;
I’ll love, yes; honour (maybe); won’t obey,
but will co-operate if you will care
as much as you are seeming to today.

I’ll do my best to be your better half,
but I don’t have the patience of a saint;
not with you, at you I may sometimes laugh,
and snap too, though I’ll try to learn restraint.

We might work out: no blame if we do not.
With all my heart, I think it’s worth a shot.

Love Listen

Ann Gray

Let’s love, listen, take time
when time is all we have.
Let’s be unafraid to be kind,
learn to disregard the bad
if the good outweighs it daily.
Let’s make a gift of silence,
the day’s hushing into dark,
and when we hold each other
let’s always be astonished
we are where we want to be.
Let’s hope to age together,
but if we can’t, let’s promise now
to remember how we shone
when we were at our best,
when we were most ourselves.

The Vows Moment Wobbles the Sonnet

David Hart

I’ve walked the valley path in sticky rain
to see the person I met in a caff by luck
lost to the world out on a cloddy track
full of ache, done-for-almost, in foul pain –

Enough, I love you.
So I claim the right to touch, –
Easily accepted.
Here we are
on the old bridge across the river, your letter
said Meet me, it seemed unlikely. You came.

I wanted this to be a convivial sonnet, lost it.
No loss, though, of the light dance of us?

I came prepared with a scenario, you see.
News to me, me and my palpitations, dear.

Will you join me in a new song’s modal drift?
I called you dear and you let it pass, it hurts.

I’ll jump about a bit and hum, okay with you?
You hum, I’ll mode, you jump, I’ll amble, yes.

So, are we pledged? Pledged, trothed, vowed?
You haven’t heard my dear nor called me it.

I won’t name it, no, but tease your shy drift.
Trembling, you mean, to give you yes, yes.

You’ll be my sonnet lover loosely interpreted?
I vow to dance your lines all over the house.

For new times’ sake let’s make a start on this.
On the road then? I give you my hand, dear.

I give you mine, rhymes with, rhymes how? Ah ha.maid-of-honor-bride-on-beach

The Sailor’s Vow

Alan Jenkins

The life I spent so lavishly
Before we met
Seems one long night, in memory,
Of sea-fever and sea-fret –

Which led me here, to you, to this:
Our haven below decks.
You anchor me, I you, with a kiss
(Though the coast is strewn with wrecks).

A Lang Promise

Jackie Kay

Whether the weather be dreich or fair, my luve,
if guid times greet us, or we hae tae face the wurst,
ahint and afore whit will happen tae us:
blind in the present, eyes open to the furore,
unkempt or sharply dressed, suddenly puir or poorly,
peelie-wally or in fine feckle, beld or frosty,
calm as a ghoul or in a feery-farry,
in dork December or in springy Spring weather,
doon by the Barrows; on the banks o’ the Champs d’Elysees,
at mid-nicht, first licht, whether the mune
be roond or crescent, and ye be o’ soond mind
or absent, I’ll tak your trusty haund
and lead you over the haw – hame, ma darlin.
I’ll carry ma lantern and daur defend ye agin ony enemy;
and whilst there is breath in me, I’ll blaw it intae ye.
Fir ye are ma true luve, the bonnie face I see afore me;
nichts I fall intae slumber, it’s ye I see swimmingly –
all yer guidness and blytheness, yer passion.
You’ll be mine, noo, an’ till the end o’ time,
ma bonnie lassie, I’ll tak the full guid o’ ye’
and gie it back, and gie it back tae ye:
a furst kiss, a lang promise: time’s gowden ring.

Ghazal: I Thee Wed

Mimi Khalvati

Bride: Though the Barbary lion is extinct
and beside it love is a feeble thing,
I thee wed.

Groom: Though the cry violet has cried its last
and the first flush of youth has had its fling,
I thee wed.

Bride: Though the skylark neither soars nor sings
of a joy whose race is just beginning,
I thee wed.

Groom: Though the baobab’s shade has grown so thin
and the elephant thirsts, remembering,
I thee wed.

Both: In the name of beast, flower and bird,
tree of life and song of love, with this ring,
I thee wed.

Vow: The Simplest, Hardest and the Truest Thing

Liz Lochhead

One: We live in love, so finally are come today
(beyond the gladrags and the sweet bouquet
beyond cake or ring or all this fuss)
to this, the simplest and the truest thing for us.

Other: If you can say, my love – and hand on heart –
I will love you until death do us part –

One: – Hand on heart,
I will love you till death do us part.

Other: Then look me in my eyes – and now!
and here! – this kiss we kiss shall be our vow.

For a Wedding

Michael Longley

Let wild birds call the banns
merlins from the hillside
sanderlings from the waves
whimbrels with seven notes
nightingales from the wood
from the treetops rooks
from your own back garden
blue tit, robin, wren.

‘I give you this bouquet
of saxifrage sneezewort
spurge ragged robin
asphodel lords-and-ladies.’

‘For your buttonhole I
have braided loosestrife
and self-heal and eyebright
and speedwell and speedwell.’


Roger McGough

I vow to honour the commitment made this day
Which, unlike the flowers and the cake,
Will not wither or decay. A promise, not to obey
But to respond joyfully, to forgive and to console,
For once incomplete, we now are whole.

I vow to bear in mind that if, at times
Things seem to go from bad to worse,
They also go from bad to better.
The lost purse is handed in, the letter
Contains wonderful news. Trains run on time,
Hurricanes run out of breath, floods subside,
And toast lands jam-side up.

And with this ring, my final vow:
To recall, whatever the future may bring,
The love I feel for you now.17


Andrew Motion

I make this vow today. I stand here now
Returning you what you gave me to give.
Myself complete. Myself complete in you.
My life I give, that you gave me to give.

A Lychee for A.E.

Adam O’Riordan

Before the ring, before the web
of beautiful promises,
Love, I give you this:

Stripped to the flesh,
dark rind discarded
like an abbot’s robe,

the sleek globe glows
like a paper lantern
in a summer garden.

Clustered on branches
of maturing evergreens
girdled in their groves

that grow fecund,
as colonies of bees sip
at their flowers’ glands.

Bred for pleasure and
the appetites of an emperor:
Satiated, shut your hand

on my shrunken, bruised
-black, heart of stone.

The Vows – A Coda

Michael Symmons Roberts

We pledge to wake each morning face-to-face,
to shun the orders of the busy sun,
we promise to disturb each other’s peace.

And we will, yes, gaze at the pining moon,
will pick out brine-blown glass-gems from the sand,
will read our future scratched onto a stone.

We’re naked, till we wear each other’s scent
and recognize it quicker than our own.
You start and finish me, you’re my extent.

I speak these words to many and for one.

To be said by senior couples renewing their vows

Carol Rumens

1. (He and She, together)
Partner, partner, on the wall,
Nailed there so you’d never fall,
Hope you like this shade of blue
I’ve lightly painted over you.

2. (He and He, together)
Randy, dandy, twist and shout –
B-and-Bs once threw us out.
Now we’re poor old Zimmer-geezers,
Folk think we’re twin-brothers. Jesus!

3. (He)
When I’m toothless, bald and grumpy,
Dump me gently as you dump me.
Dumping you would be invidious:
You’re already old and hideous.


Clare Shaw

Say yes.
That word on your lips
is a kiss;
is a promise already made.
We made it.

Love did not turn from hurt
or hard work.
When lights failed, it did not switch off.
When love had no road,
we willingly built it.

We shouldered its stones
and its dirt. So thank god
there are days like this when it’s easy.
When we open our mouths
and the words flood in.

Put the word of your hand
in mine.
We have learnt to hold to each other
when nothing was given by right;
how love will insist
with its ache; with its first painful
tug on the guts;

its snake in the nest of the ribs;
the bomb in the chest;
in the Y of the thighs; the red, red
red sun of it, rising.
How love must, at all costs,

be answered. We have answered
and so have a million before us
and each of their names is a vow.
So now I can tell you, quite simply
you are the house I will live in:

there is no good reason
to move. Good earth,
you are home, stone, sun,
all my countries. Vital to me
as the light. You are it

and I am asking.
Say yes.

Love opens a door
then slams it. It does.
It loses its touch and its looks.
But love needs its fury.
We have fought

and when times make it necessary,
we will again. When night draws in,
we won’t forget
how once the streets ran wet with light
and love. Like blood. They will again.

But for now,
we make our promises gently.
This extraordinary day we have made.
Listen –
the birds in their ordinary heaven.

Tonight the sky will blaze
with stars. Today, my love,
rooms bloom with flowers.
Say yes.
The sky is ours.

Well if you read down to here, well done, there are some beautiful poems here, a great idea and inspirational. Wedding poems will add a true touch of class to your speech and others who are speaking.

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Order of wedding speeches


order of wedding speeches

The normal order of wedding speeches does vary depending on culture and religion, and most definitely personal preference. The main objective of this part of the wedding is to make sure that the guests pay attention and actually enjoy the speeches.

Normally, the speeches are held at the end of the meal.

The Order of the day following the wedding is as follows:

  • Guests arrive for drinks
  • Guests are seated
  • MC introduces the bridal party and welcomes the guests
  • Meal is served
  • Speeches are held
  • Cutting of the cake
  • Bridal waltz
  • Guests invited to dance
  • The farewell

This order is flexible and can change. If you would like another order, go for it, just make sure everyone of the important people are with the program!!

Speech Order
The order of the speeches themselves is totally dependent on your personal preference. But for the sake of making sure they all run smoothly, decide on an order before the speeches are begun. Traditionally, speeches are made in the following order:

  • Father of the Bride
  • Father of the Groom
  • The Groom
  • The Bride
  • The Best Man
  • The Maid Of Honor

Each individual’s role and speech generally covers these basics:

Master of Ceremonies(MC):

  • If you have a MC, if not the best man can take this role. They control the order of speeches. He/she calls for the guests’ attention and either introduces each speaker in turn or just the first speaker.

The Bride’s Father

(Or close friend or relative of the bride’s family) speaks first.The bride’s father will propose a toast to the newlywed couple. What he will speak about will depend on each situation, but he might include:

  • Welcome the guests and thank them for joining both his and the groom’s family
  • How proud he is of his daughter, often including stories of her growing up and their family life
  • Welcoming his new son-in-law and the groom’s parents to his family
  • Advice and well wishes to the couple
  • Thanking everyone who helped to organise the wedding, including all paid employees
  • Proposing a toast to the couple at the end of his speech

The Groom

Traditionally speaks next. His speech could include:

  • Thanking the guests for their attendance
  • Thanking the bride’s parents for allowing him to marry their daughter, welcoming him into the family
  • Thanking everyone who contributed to the wedding
  • Thanking and complimenting the bride, emphasising how lucky he is to have married her
  • Paying tribute to his own parents- refering to his upbringing, moral guidance, and opportunities given to him through his family
  • Thanking the page boys, flower girls, ring bearers, and bridesmaids
  • Thanking his best man, a brief discussion of how important his friendship is to the groom
  • Thanking his groomsmen for their help in preparing him for the wedding, as well as helping the day to run smoothly
  • Thank everyone for coming, for their kind wishes and gifts

The Bride

Though not mandatory, the bride may choose to make her own speech. This can vary from a few short words thanking her guests for attending, and how lucky she feels on this day, to her own full-blown version of the groom’s own speech.

The Best Man

Officially, his duty is to reply on behalf of both the groomsmen and the bridesmaids. His speech is traditionally the most casual and fun, and generally includes:

  • Complimenting the bride and groom and wishing them a lifetime of happiness together
  • Thanking the groom for asking him to be best man at his wedding
  • Describe any funny stories about the groom (without mentioning anything too raunchy or any past relationships)
  • An informal speech or story about the bride and groom, and why they’re well- fitted for one another
  • Reading out any words from relatives/ particularly good friends who were unable to attend

The Maid Of Honor

  • Say how much you love the bride (best friend/sister)
  • A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship
  • A personal tribute to the bride
  • (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!

If there are to be other toasts or additional speeches to be made, they are done so now.

The MC will then finalise the wedding speeches by encouraging the guests to enjoy the rest of the evening.

We hoped that help you understand the order of wedding speeches, good luck.

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How to write a maid of honor speech

how to write a maid of honor speechFirstly, how to write a maid of honor speech, is the same as how to write a maid of honor toast in some respects.

Our special thanks go to and this particular article for this article and especially Kyley, who left this post. It is so good we wanted to show you.

When we posted “Ask Team Practical: Wedding Toasts,” the idea was that we would look through the comments and collect the best tips on how to write a wedding speech. Luckily for us, there was no need to pick and choose. Kyley left this brilliant comment about how to give a Maid of Honor (or Best Man!) toast that tells you everything you need to know, in four easy steps:

After delivering what I consider a bang up Maid of Honor speech, and hearing a number of other wonderful ones, here is what I consider the perfect wedding toast formula:

Part 1: I love you both so much.

Part 2: A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship and how awesome they are. (Try to stay away from something just about about the bride or groom, but about them as a couple. Talking about primarily the bride or groom within the context of their relationship and their love can be lovely, too, if that’s your relationship to the couple.) This should be the bulk of your speech.

Part 3: I hope you are always as happy, joyous, and in love as that moment. OR This proves how madly in love you two are. May you continue to be an inspiration to us all. Etc.

Part 4. (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!
Keep it short and sweet, and it will be a home-run every time. And now because we go the extra mile for you, a sample wedding toast, written by out very own Columns Editor, Alyssa.

Stacey and James,

I love you both so much. Stacey, not only for you being one of my best friends, but for being there for me when being my friend didn’t just involve late night Wal-Mart runs and hours of watching 80′s movies. We’ve grown up together and I am so very grateful that we did not grow apart.

And James, I love you, too, for not only being such an incredible partner for my Stacey, but for being a great friend to me also. I know you didn’t expect that dating Stacey would include helping her flaky friend after she locked her keys in the car three times in one month, but you are a doll and a gentleman for doing so with a smile and only laughing at me a little.

However, what I love most about the two of you is how you are together. I’ve never seen two people that fit so well in each other’s lives; it’s hard to imagine a time when you weren’t “Stacey and James”. It may seem to some like you two were just meant to be and that fate put you together, but I think to look at it that way diminishes how amazing your relationship really is.

Having been there from the beginning, I know that what appeared to be seamless was the effort of two people who truly loved one another and were determined to make their relationship work. They didn’t just magically fit into each other’s lives, they rearranged their lives to make room.

They changed priorities, made time for one another and learned to love each other’s little quirks… like James’s not-so-secret love of male R&B vocalists. But nothing shows this as much as Stacey, James and the hockey debacle. You see, when they started dating, James noticed that Stacey had a framed Gretsky jersey in her living room.

And, deciding to play it cool, James started asking Stacey if she wanted to go to local hockey games and watching the latest game on TV just so he’d have something to talk about to Stacey the next time they chatted. Stacey, oblivious to all of this, thought James really liked hockey so she enlisted my brother to teach her more about the game.

Because, you see, Stacey never watched hockey. The jersey belonged to her Uncle Mike, and Aunt Laura gave it to her as a reminder of him and how he’s watching over her. Meanwhile, both of these guys are pretending to know more about hockey than they actually do and were starring in their own sports-themed comedy of errors. Eventually, they figured it out… and by eventually I mean seven months later.

However, once these two worked on their communication skills, they had a new favorite hobby to do together… and further proof that Uncle Mike really is watching over Stacey. AND, he’s bound and determined that she marry a hockey lover!

And it only goes to show not only how goofy these two are for each other, but how much they truly are committed to being in each other’s lives. Your love makes us smile, makes us tear up with joy and makes us believe in the kind of love cynics would make you feel is impossible. Thank you for being an inspiration and my friends.

To Stacey and James! (everybody drinks)

And that, ladies and gentleman? That’s how it’s done. Now seriously. Do us all a favor and don’t mention strippers, mmmkaaayyy?

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Maid Of Honor Speech Examples

maid of honor speech examplesWriting a maid of honor speech as all speech writing is made easier by using maid of honor speech examples.

Your best friend or sister asked you to be the maid of honor at her wedding. You must be excited then you start to get nervous when you think about the speech. What to say? How to impress everyone? It is very difficult to speak out when everyone is staring at you. You must be trying to find some magical words online to make this day special for your friend or sister. May be I don’t come out with magical answer. But hopefully I want to share some tips to help you.

Plan AheadBut be comfortable if good points don’t hit until later – I started thinking about speech three weeks earlier before wedding. I note down number of inspiring thoughts but nothing was going into right direction. Only a few days earlier when I feel urgency, things started to flow. Plan ahead but there is no need to rush. Take your time and don’t forget to ask for the feedback.

Write freely – Make a draft as no one is going to read thisEven if you are a good writer, you are not able to complete the speech because of nervousness. It makes you more embarrass when you think everyone will stare you during speech. I will advise you to put everyone out of your head and write freely as no one is going to read your speech.

Ask few questions to improvise your Speech: —

  • How it was growing up with your sister? How much you were closer to each other?
  • How did you meet your friend and how you people came together?
  • What are the admiring facts about your sister or friend?
  • Either she was helpful, loving, or dominating?
  • Don’t forget to write about her fiancée?
  • What you have learnt from her and how she is different from others?
  • How much you are going to miss her after her wedding?

Start with the middle – Try to get the answers of all questions that we have discussed earlier for middle paragraphSometimes, it is difficult to start with the speech. The best idea is to draft the middle paragraph before giving it a final touch. Once you are completed, you are free to take suggestions for starting and concluding paragraph.

Avoid embarrassing or negative stories – Retelling these stories at maid of honor speech is not a nice idea – We all try different things that embarrass ourselves, right? Maid of honor speech is not the right time to bring up such stories. Be careful with your jokes and sense of humor. The main objective of your speech is to celebrate a new marriage, not to share friend’s dirty laundry.

Here is the rule of thumb – if you cannot speak out your maid of honor speech in front of your parents then you should not speak those words at all. Besides that try to make your speech short and sweet so that everyone can get involved into it. Once you follow all these interesting tips, you are ready to prepare maid of honor speech for your friend or sister.

Key is to get some great help and as I said the maid of honor speech examples are so helpful.

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Matron Of Honor Speech

matron of honor speechWe have put together an example of a Matron Of Honor Speech (head bridesmaid), that you can customize to suit your own needs. We think the Matron Of Honor Speech is so important for you and the bride, it has to be considered carefully.

While our example is a great start, we have other resources where we can help, so read on and utilize what works for you. We wish you all the best, good luck.

Matron Of Honor Speech

Normally follows the best man, so the audience will be warmed up at this point, well we hope so, or the best man has bombed.

Thank you .. (The Best Man’s name) .. for your hilarious and yet heartfelt speech there. I think a few of us have learned something new and interesting about the groom there. I will try and follow that with and enlighten you more about the (Bride’s name) the bride. I’d like to start by saying thank you for all the compliments but all the bridesmaids that are over a certain age are all taken, sorry!

But me and .. (the Best Man’s name) .., the best man, do agree on two things: firstly, .. (the bride).., she does look fantastic, and the dress is amazing. I just feel sorry for whomever it is that’s picking up the bill for it. Only joking .. (the Groom) .. it wasn’t too expensive, but the dress and your lovely wife combined look a million dollars. And secondly, I think we all agree that the couple are a match made in heaven – the perfect couple.

Every couple will have their ups and their downs; it’s inevitable, and they are bound to have their differences.

For example, I asked .. (The Groom) .. what he wanted from the marriage. He said to me that he wanted happiness, a family and to be with his lovely wife until the end of time. And when I asked .. (The bride) .. what she wanted from the marriage, she replied, a new George Forman grill and a large diamond. Not quite the same as .. (the Groom) .. , but still at least she is easy to satisfy.

I’ve known .. (the Bride) .. for X amount of years now. I’ve seen her with lots of old boyfriends, but never happy, or in love. That’s how I knew that .. (the Groom ) .. was the one for her. The first time I saw them together, she was a different person. She was relaxed, happy and carefree. This must have been the way that .. (the Groom) .. made her feel, like the princess she is.

He has shown her that she is special and shown her true love. I know that if I am half as happy and loved as .. (the bride) .. is when I get married, I will be blessed. And .. (the bride and Groom) .., it’s hard to put into words how seeing you together, so happy, makes all of us here today feel. And when we all witnessed you in the church today make those vows we all knew they would last forever.

I know how insecure the bride has felt in relationships before and this morning she was a bag of nerves, wondering if .. (the Groom) .. will show and listing all the things that may have gone wrong. So .. (the Bride) .. , I’ll tell you again what I told you this morning; . .. (the Groom) .. loves you. Your new life as Mrs ??? is just starting, so enjoy it.

.. (The Bride,) .. it is a real honour to be your Matron of Honor. I am deeply moved for even knowing you, and even more so that you would grant me this opportunity. So thank you very much.

Ladies and Gentlemen, please could you stand and raise your glasses once again for the “Bride and Groom”.

“Long may their love and happiness last”.

(With special thanks to Ryan Marshall for the speech)

We hope that you enjoy being the Matron of Honor and good luck with your Matron Of Honor Speech!!!

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Maid of honor tips (Bachelorette Party Tips)

maid of honor speech bachelorette party, Bachelorette Party TipsHere are some maid of honor tips on planning a bachelorette party. .


Bachelorette Party Tips are here !!!

When to Host a Bachelorette Party – Bachelorette parties have become popular recently because wedding events have become so formal. If the guest list for the bridal shower included more than close friends it is probably a good idea to plan some bachelorette party activities. The bride will be busy during the weeks before her wedding. You are your close friends will want to get on her calendar in advance.

What makes a bachelorette party different from a bridal shower? – A bachelorette party is a much less formal affair. The guest list does not require the invitation of parents, relatives, or anyone. It is a time for the bride’s closest friends to go out and celebrate her big night of being single. A bachelorette party honors the bride without requiring anything of her. She will welcome the break from the rigid requirements of bridal showers, rehearsal dinners, and the wedding planning.

Whom do I invite to the bachelorette party? The bride is required. The bridesmaids are probably also a sure thing. After that, you can invite as many or as few people as you want. We would suggest inviting only people that the bride is very comfortable with. Ask yourself “If the bride was to get really drunk who would be OK with it?”. In most cases, the mother of the groom is out of the question. Even the mother of the bride might not be appropriate.

When should I hold the bachelorette party? It is probably best if the bachelorette party is held at least two weeks in advance of the wedding. Most people hold them after the bridal shower. This prevents people who were not invited from being angry at the shower.

Should I call it a bachelorette party or just a girl’s night out? The term bachelorette party was invented because the night out is in response to guys having a bachelor party. If you think people might be offended by the prospect of a bachelorette party, just suggest a girl’s night out. Decoupling the event from the wedding will be helpful in keeping people from feeling left out.

Weekend or Weekday? Weekend.

Stay in or go out? Most parties start at someone’s place and then go out to a favorite bar or club.

Stripper? Most parties do not have a male stripper though some do.

What type of food should I serve at the bachelorette party? This is definitely one area where bachelorette parties and bridal showers differ. Standard bachelorette party fare includes items that are easily acquired and low effort. Think chips, veggie trays, a silly cake and having pizza delivered.

Should I serve drinks at the bachelorette party? Definitely. Pre-made cocktails will make the party a big hit. Most stores sell margarita, daiquiri, or cosmopolitan mixes that are as easy as can be. You can mix them in a drink pitcher and serve the gang. Adult drinking straws are extremely popular.

What do people do at a bachelorette party? For the most part it is just a fun night spent with friends. There are a number of game ideas on the website. You can find the bachelorette party game ideas here. Other activities include talking, drinking, dancing, hiring a limousine, going to a show, a bar crawl, or visiting a favorite restaurant.

What is appropriate attire for a bachelorette party? Bar clothes. In other word’s your cutest, trendiest outfit. Somewhat whorish but not too borish.

Who pays for the bachelorette party? We suggest using the same method that guys use for a bachelor party. It is not unusual for you to charge the guests. Use the money collected to pay for any food you serve, any entertainment you provide, decorations, gifts for the bride and any transportation you provide. If you are going out charge a little bit extra. The amount left over is called “the stag”. Use it to purchase the bride’s drinks during the evening. If you keep the amount requested to around $20-$50 per person and you provide them with drinks, fun and favors they will be more than happy.

More tips on throwing a great bachelorette party:

Arrange a designated driver, hire a limo, or call cabs. A DUI will ruin everything including the wedding.
Call ahead to wherever you are going to request a nice table or special treatment. Most bars and clubs know that bachelorette parties are good customers and will do something nice for your group or the bride.
Have a way to call attention to the bride. A bachelorette party veil, tiara or sash is a great choice. This is her big night, so all of the attention will make her feel special.
Purchase patterns on suggest that some peole want a clean party while other people want a filthy one. Rarely do the choices fall between the two. People want it either clean-clean or filthy-filthy. If the bride is pure, stay with a clean theme. If the bride isn’t so pure, she’ll probably get a kick out of being shocked.
Mail out bachelorette party invitations in advance. That way you can get on everyone’s calendar and no one important will miss the festivities. Invitations also really set the theme and get people excited about attending.
Reference: (we have supplied over 25,000 bachelorette parties)

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Top Secret Maid Of Honor Duties

maid of honor dutiesThese are the most important maid of honor duties, the others are important but these are critical to your success as the best maid of honor out there.


1. Own That Dress

You know that potentially horrible dress may not look cool, woman up and own it.

2. Maid of honor Ninja – be ready to pounce and kick butt

This one is self-explanatory. Be the wedding ninja that strikes without warning, whenever and wherever needed. Mistakes happen, so always be kind and courteous if something’s amiss; but do your best to fix the problem without the bride ever having to know.

3. Throw the best Bachelorette Bash

Don’t just throw a party, throw a complete bachelorette bash, tailored to her specific tastes. Make a note of her favorite hot spot, arrange for a surprise along the way (a favorite drink, a limo, or a spa day), grab her favorite gals, and spoil her rotten. You know she’d do the same for you!

4. Take the initiative.

“Oh, you know those peonies you have been eyeing for the reception? Here’s a quick Pinterest board I compiled to give you some inspiration.” (MOH of the Year.) Take a little initiative and she’ll definitely appreciate it. She may feel like her to-do list is never-ending, and every little bit helps. Plus, it shows you care (even if weddings isn’t your forte).

5. Keep the bridesmaids in check with dresses, which also means…

This one is a two-parter. The Maid of Honor usually has the task of making sure bridesmaid dresses are ordered on time, that bridesmaids make it to fittings, and that dresses are picked up well in advance. This also means if a bridesmaid is running a little behind of schedule, work it out with her, not the bride. This will give the bride one less thing to worry about – in other words, mission complete.

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6. Keep essentials on hand at all times.

The bride could need a number of things on her wedding day, so keep a bag of essentials close by just in case. You’ll be her total lifesaver. She could spill (Tide pen!), her ‘do could start to fall mid-day (pins), encounters close talkers (mints), forgets her vows (keep a copy), cries (extra kleenex), cries more tears of joy (eye makeup remover + travel mascara), gets a headache (aspirin)… the list goes on. You know her best, so plan ahead for anything she’s likely to require on the big day. She’ll love you for it.

7. Have contact information for all important people and vendors.

It’s unlikely that it will happen, but vendor scheduling mistakes or other issues can arise on the big day. Be prepared for anything by having contact information for vendors on your cell phone. If the flowers mysteriously never show, the cake is wrong, or the limo is running behind of schedule, you won’t have to ask the bride and freak her out. Just sneak away for a quick minute and give ‘em a ring. Likely they’re just running a little behind, no big deal.

8. When the music is good, you dance, even if you don’t want to.

And, when the music is not so good, you also dance. Either way, you get out there and shake your groove thing, shake your groove thing, yeah yeah. Show them how to do it now.

9. Make sure the couple has plenty of one-on-one time – very important.

The wedding day goes by in an INSTANT. I’ve heard some couples don’t even get to enjoy a full piece of cake because they were too busy taking photos. Make sure the couple has plenty of time to dance, to eat, and to take a mini chat break – just the two of them.

10. Make her laugh, be there for her, close….

If she’s stressed out, make her laugh. Break out your best impression, your favorite hilarious moment, or scramble for the hilarious You Tube video she loves on your cell phone. If it’s raining, point out that rain actually means good luck. You get the idea: be the silver lining of the day. She probably won’t need a good laugh, but be ready with one just in case.

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11. Be the Clean-Up Crew, own it.

Let the couple run away at the end of the night and take care of those last-minute tasks, like cleaning up, returning rental tablecloths, and making sure the venue’s end-of-night tasks have been completed.

12. HAVE FUN, that is an order…

This one can’t be stressed enough: enjoy the day! It’s a great moment you’ll always remember together and she’ll appreciate all you did to make her wedding the very best. The hard work is done: have fun!

Have any to add to the list? Comment below!

Happy Planning!

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