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Order of wedding speeches

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order of wedding speeches

The normal order of wedding speeches does vary depending on culture and religion, and most definitely personal preference. The main objective of this part of the wedding is to make sure that the guests pay attention and actually enjoy the speeches.

Normally, the speeches are held at the end of the meal.

The Order of the day following the wedding is as follows:

  • Guests arrive for drinks
  • Guests are seated
  • MC introduces the bridal party and welcomes the guests
  • Meal is served
  • Speeches are held
  • Cutting of the cake
  • Bridal waltz
  • Guests invited to dance
  • The farewell

This order is flexible and can change. If you would like another order, go for it, just make sure everyone of the important people are with the program!!

Speech Order
The order of the speeches themselves is totally dependent on your personal preference. But for the sake of making sure they all run smoothly, decide on an order before the speeches are begun. Traditionally, speeches are made in the following order:

  • Father of the Bride
  • Father of the Groom
  • The Groom
  • The Bride
  • The Best Man
  • The Maid Of Honor

Each individual’s role and speech generally covers these basics:

Master of Ceremonies(MC):

  • If you have a MC, if not the best man can take this role. They control the order of speeches. He/she calls for the guests’ attention and either introduces each speaker in turn or just the first speaker.

The Bride’s Father

(Or close friend or relative of the bride’s family) speaks first.The bride’s father will propose a toast to the newlywed couple. What he will speak about will depend on each situation, but he might include:

  • Welcome the guests and thank them for joining both his and the groom’s family
  • How proud he is of his daughter, often including stories of her growing up and their family life
  • Welcoming his new son-in-law and the groom’s parents to his family
  • Advice and well wishes to the couple
  • Thanking everyone who helped to organise the wedding, including all paid employees
  • Proposing a toast to the couple at the end of his speech

The Groom

Traditionally speaks next. His speech could include:

  • Thanking the guests for their attendance
  • Thanking the bride’s parents for allowing him to marry their daughter, welcoming him into the family
  • Thanking everyone who contributed to the wedding
  • Thanking and complimenting the bride, emphasising how lucky he is to have married her
  • Paying tribute to his own parents- refering to his upbringing, moral guidance, and opportunities given to him through his family
  • Thanking the page boys, flower girls, ring bearers, and bridesmaids
  • Thanking his best man, a brief discussion of how important his friendship is to the groom
  • Thanking his groomsmen for their help in preparing him for the wedding, as well as helping the day to run smoothly
  • Thank everyone for coming, for their kind wishes and gifts

The Bride

Though not mandatory, the bride may choose to make her own speech. This can vary from a few short words thanking her guests for attending, and how lucky she feels on this day, to her own full-blown version of the groom’s own speech.

The Best Man

Officially, his duty is to reply on behalf of both the groomsmen and the bridesmaids. His speech is traditionally the most casual and fun, and generally includes:

  • Complimenting the bride and groom and wishing them a lifetime of happiness together
  • Thanking the groom for asking him to be best man at his wedding
  • Describe any funny stories about the groom (without mentioning anything too raunchy or any past relationships)
  • An informal speech or story about the bride and groom, and why they’re well- fitted for one another
  • Reading out any words from relatives/ particularly good friends who were unable to attend

The Maid Of Honor

  • Say how much you love the bride (best friend/sister)
  • A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship
  • A personal tribute to the bride
  • (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!

If there are to be other toasts or additional speeches to be made, they are done so now.

The MC will then finalise the wedding speeches by encouraging the guests to enjoy the rest of the evening.

We hoped that help you understand the order of wedding speeches, good luck.

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How to write a maid of honor speech

how to write a maid of honor speechFirstly, how to write a maid of honor speech, is the same as how to write a maid of honor toast in some respects.

Our special thanks go to apracticalwedding.com and this particular article http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/08/write-wedding-toast/ for this article and especially Kyley, who left this post. It is so good we wanted to show you.

When we posted “Ask Team Practical: Wedding Toasts,” the idea was that we would look through the comments and collect the best tips on how to write a wedding speech. Luckily for us, there was no need to pick and choose. Kyley left this brilliant comment about how to give a Maid of Honor (or Best Man!) toast that tells you everything you need to know, in four easy steps:

After delivering what I consider a bang up Maid of Honor speech, and hearing a number of other wonderful ones, here is what I consider the perfect wedding toast formula:

Part 1: I love you both so much.

Part 2: A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship and how awesome they are. (Try to stay away from something just about about the bride or groom, but about them as a couple. Talking about primarily the bride or groom within the context of their relationship and their love can be lovely, too, if that’s your relationship to the couple.) This should be the bulk of your speech.

Part 3: I hope you are always as happy, joyous, and in love as that moment. OR This proves how madly in love you two are. May you continue to be an inspiration to us all. Etc.

Part 4. (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!
Keep it short and sweet, and it will be a home-run every time. And now because we go the extra mile for you, a sample wedding toast, written by out very own Columns Editor, Alyssa.

Stacey and James,

I love you both so much. Stacey, not only for you being one of my best friends, but for being there for me when being my friend didn’t just involve late night Wal-Mart runs and hours of watching 80′s movies. We’ve grown up together and I am so very grateful that we did not grow apart.

And James, I love you, too, for not only being such an incredible partner for my Stacey, but for being a great friend to me also. I know you didn’t expect that dating Stacey would include helping her flaky friend after she locked her keys in the car three times in one month, but you are a doll and a gentleman for doing so with a smile and only laughing at me a little.

However, what I love most about the two of you is how you are together. I’ve never seen two people that fit so well in each other’s lives; it’s hard to imagine a time when you weren’t “Stacey and James”. It may seem to some like you two were just meant to be and that fate put you together, but I think to look at it that way diminishes how amazing your relationship really is.

Having been there from the beginning, I know that what appeared to be seamless was the effort of two people who truly loved one another and were determined to make their relationship work. They didn’t just magically fit into each other’s lives, they rearranged their lives to make room.

They changed priorities, made time for one another and learned to love each other’s little quirks… like James’s not-so-secret love of male R&B vocalists. But nothing shows this as much as Stacey, James and the hockey debacle. You see, when they started dating, James noticed that Stacey had a framed Gretsky jersey in her living room.

And, deciding to play it cool, James started asking Stacey if she wanted to go to local hockey games and watching the latest game on TV just so he’d have something to talk about to Stacey the next time they chatted. Stacey, oblivious to all of this, thought James really liked hockey so she enlisted my brother to teach her more about the game.

Because, you see, Stacey never watched hockey. The jersey belonged to her Uncle Mike, and Aunt Laura gave it to her as a reminder of him and how he’s watching over her. Meanwhile, both of these guys are pretending to know more about hockey than they actually do and were starring in their own sports-themed comedy of errors. Eventually, they figured it out… and by eventually I mean seven months later.

However, once these two worked on their communication skills, they had a new favorite hobby to do together… and further proof that Uncle Mike really is watching over Stacey. AND, he’s bound and determined that she marry a hockey lover!

And it only goes to show not only how goofy these two are for each other, but how much they truly are committed to being in each other’s lives. Your love makes us smile, makes us tear up with joy and makes us believe in the kind of love cynics would make you feel is impossible. Thank you for being an inspiration and my friends.

To Stacey and James! (everybody drinks)

And that, ladies and gentleman? That’s how it’s done. Now seriously. Do us all a favor and don’t mention strippers, mmmkaaayyy?

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Maid Of Honor Speech

maid of honor speechWelcome to our Maid Of Honor Speech website and congratulations on being the maid of honor! 

Please don’t worry anymore, I know a great person and I really like what she has created to help you. She understands Public Speaking is most people’s number one fear, number two being death!! So she has made it very simple for you to make a great speech you will love as will your great friend the bride!!

She has recorded a short message here , I would love for you to have a listen and also read some of what she says, she is an author of several popular wedding speech books and is a renowned public speaker herself. So I think she should be able to help you, and you have nothing to lose as there is a 100% money back guarantee.

You could have your speech started in the next 10 minutes. Good luck to you with whatever you choose to do and I really hope your big day goes well and you enjoy it.

You were picked as maid of honor because you are a kind, loving and supportive friend to your best friend or sister, so all you have to really do is think about your feelings for the bride and groom and put them into words and in the right order. You are really half way there, and we can help you go the whole way by guiding you.

Our top maid of honor speech tips are

  • Stay calm, it is going to be ok.
  • Start to think about what you want to say as soon as you can. But don’t worry if you are not ready yet, we can help you right away.
  • Consider these ideas;
    • How did they meet?
    • What do you love about the bride
    • Why are they good together
    • If it’s your sister, talk about growing up, great times together, how she has helped you
  • Once you have finished, get opinions from people you trust
  • Memorize as much as possible, write some notes to keep you on track but try to memorize
  • Keep it short, 3 to 5 minutes is enough time to convey your feelings

The best advice we can give you right now, is to take a look at our speech examples or we highly recommend trying our book. And keep reading our great web site, there is a lot here to help you and we will add new posts with more useful information for you the maid of honor. Oh and well done btw for getting the job!!

And good luck with your maid of honor speech…

Here is a link to Wikipedia Bridesmaids

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