Your maid of honor duties are so important, you were chosen as the go-to person for the bride, to support her emotionally, get things done and to be there to listen when she needs you and offering the right guidance, that she may not want to hear, so delivered in a caring way. By doing the maid of honor duties, it will become a great eye opener for you for your own wedding.
Being chosen is a great compliment, don’t under estimate your role before the big day and on the big day. You have a great responsibility that will stay with you all your life, so enjoy it as well.
Maid Of Honor Duties before the wedding
- Help with choosing wedding invitations, gifts, floral options and general preparation for the wedding
- Help address invitations and place cards
- Help with finding a wedding location
- Organize bridesmaids’ gift to the bride
- Shop for her wedding dress and the bridesmaids’ dresses
- Makes sure that all the bridesmaids, the flower girl and ring bearer are at fittings, the rehearsal, and the ceremony on time
- Oversee getting the dresses delivered
- Help and persuade the bride to register for gifts, tell guests where the bride is registered and answer gift questions
- Assist with honeymoon planning
- Help with planning the seating
- Make recommendations and attend the cake tasting
- Attend all catering meetings and make recommendations
- Plan and host the bridal shower
- Plan and host the bachelorette party
- Maintain timetables and be of general assistance to keep things moving forward
- Attend the rehearsal dinner
- Keep a list of gifts received
- Look after the bridal gown
- Lend an ear. Whether it’s about the planning, the marriage, or the registry china patterns, the Maid Of Honor should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the Maid Of Honor keeps listening.
Maid of Honor Duties on the Big Day
You have all these duties and you have to deliver a beautiful speech
- Be there for her every step of the way, forever smiling and staying confident
- Help the bride dress and deal with her hair, jewelry and the unavoidable wedding day jitters
- Check the last minute details, like instructions for the photographer and deliveries to the hall
- Act as a messenger between the bride and groom
- Handle dress and veil issues. Maneuverability could be important here, even in the restroom, so this is an important and sometimes unexpected duty involving lifting, fluffing, arranging and rearranging
- Hold and protect the groom’s ring (keep it on your thumb)
- Hold the bride’s bouquet for the duration of the wedding ceremony
- Witness the marriage license signing
- Be part of the receiving line at the reception
- Maid of honor speech !!!
- Participate in the first dance at a formal reception partnered with the best man
- Help her out of her bridal gown and into her going away clothes and look after the gown
- Keep the bride to the schedule
- Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc
- Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and keep them in a safe place
- Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something; refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct the wait staff to keep her entree warm
- Dance with the best man during the formal first-dance sequence and possibly be announced with him at the beginning of the party. Also dance with other groomsmen, the groom, and others
- Maid of honor toast to the couple after the best man. (This is optional, but it is a nice touch.)
- Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor
- Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be as effective as venting
If the bride has help from family members, the groom or lots of bridesmaids who want to pitch in, the maid of honor’s responsibilities could be limited to wedding day ceremonial functions and a few other helpful contributions.
The dynamic between the bride and the maid of honor will impact how the planning process unfolds. It’s a sure bet, though, that if you’re a maid of honor it couldn’t hurt to have a sympathetic ear, limitless patience a day planner and a sense of humor.